Exemplars of Happiness

A few days back, I read a report on World’s happiest nations. For quite long I was of the opinion that happiness was a state of mind and its meaning differed from person to person. Isn’t every human unique after all? There cannot be a perfect definition of happiness. Flabbergasted by the term ‘happy nations’, my curiosity to find out more about these nations piqued.

In the World Happiness Report published by United Nations, India stood on the 118^th rank. I was not surprised to find India as one of the nations at the bottom of the list. Astonishingly countries which are economically and socially weaker than India fared better in ranks of happiness! People in world’s happiest nations have longer life expectancies, have more social support, have more freedom to make life choices, have lower perceptions of corruption, experience more generosity, experience less inequality of happiness and have a higher per capita income.

Recently I read an article in German, which talked about the Zeitbank or Time bank concept in Finland. The title of the article ‘Helping by gifting Time’ was catchy enough for me to read it with greater interest. Before I began reading the article, I thought of checking Finland’s rank in the list of happy nations. The nation which could conceive such a unique and beautiful concept ought to be among the top happy nations. And my guess was correct. Finland is the fifth happiest nation in the world, after Denmark, Switzerland, Iceland and Norway. In Finland, people gift time to others; meaning, people take out some time from their routines in order to do something good for the society.

It had various examples: a man who is an editor by profession frequently visits an old age home and reads out news from the newspaper to a blind old man. This is something which refreshes his mood, he says. The old man, too looks forward to meet this young man and discuss the news around the world.

When people voluntarily come forward to help others, the society in return helps such people. These volunteers can go to the time bank and get the hours of their service credited. The time bank provides help to the volunteers when they are in need. “The help which we provide is not a substitute for professional help”, say the founders of time bank. Yet it is a beautiful way to develop a bond with people, providing psychological support when someone, for example is divorced and needs someone to go for a walk with or go shopping. At the end of the article I was completely awestruck and full of admiration for the Finns. When I related this article to the factors that determined a happy nation, I realized that Finland had scored full marks in all those aspects.

The thoughts in my mind about a happy nation then moved to the perspective of happiness in India. Talking about life expectancy, one of the factors for happiness, it is 68 years for Indians, which I believe is low considering the strides in medicine India is experiencing. However, considering the purchasing power of some, these advanced medical facilities may not be affordable for all. Great personalities like Dr. G. Venkataswamy, founder of Aravind Eye Hospital, have facilitated high quality eye treatment and cataract surgeries free of cost for people belonging to economically weaker sections. Laudable efforts by the Government and doctors like G.Venkataswamy are attempts to improve the life expectancy in India. Having said that, being physically fit is not enough to be happy. Mental happiness too is of a paramount importance.

The other determinants of happiness have a role to play in developing happy minds. Take for example the factor ‘freedom to make life choices’. Often around me I have seen people who are unhappy with their jobs. That is because their passion lies elsewhere and yet they end up doing some humdrum job. The background story before getting a job, i.e. of education is the same: to survive in the rat race and to get into the fields which are ‘in demand’, people often sacrifice their passions to maintain their status in the society. Perhaps for them, more than the happiness of their own, society’s opinions about them matter. We often hear some parents saying “What will people say?” The freedom to make life choices, in many cases, is not present even while choosing a life partner. Career and marriage, which are lifelong and crucial decisions, often are left to the judgment of the society. In such cases, where the heart and mind are not at peace, how can one be happy? Unfortunately, high salary earned in dissatisfactory job also does not amount to happiness. Thus, a higher per capita income does not necessarily contribute towards happiness. Haven’t we heard that ‘Money can’t buy happiness’?

As far as generosity is concerned, deduction under section 80G of Income tax Act attempts to pay respect to the donors, although the intentions of such donations may not always be noble. Nevertheless! Do these donations really benefit the needy or do they only help the rich to get richer, is the question. The problem of inequality of happiness arises in a densely populated country like India, where there are not enough and equal opportunities for all. Lack of opportunities and fairness are the some of the reasons why brain drain can happen. Economic and social factors like large population, high poverty and unemployment- elements of vicious circle, are determinants of adversity, leading to unhappiness among people.

A nation is happy when every citizen is happy, where there is no struggle to make both ends meet and people have the liberty to pursue their passions. That is possible only when creation of opportunities start. To achieve happiness at such a macro level is a Herculean task; surely it will take time to achieve a 100% happy population. At an individual level, we are responsible for our happiness. True, that we cannot always have everything that we want. But finding happiness in whatever we have and doing something that really gives us happiness ensures well being of the body and mind.

Recently I bought me a bicycle and riding it every morning helps me reach a rejuvenating sense of happiness. Reading novels and immersing myself in their stories gives me immense happiness. Understanding German language and delving into its beauty every time I read an article, helps me to understand the world better. Writing helps me to discover my inner self and develops my thought process. Interesting discussions with my friends and family, good food and hearty laugh also define my sources of happiness. It makes me realize that I am the owner of my happiness; people around me cannot decide when I should be happy. And I am convinced of this fact every time I see a frolic bunch of children, laughing and playing. Nothing around them seems to affect their happiness.

In a world of widely prevalent social media, where a smiling profile picture need not necessarily symbolize happiness, it is important to find genuine happiness within oneself. Because many happy individual minds and sanguine mindsets can really build a happy nation!

The Race against Time

As a student, time and deadlines had paramount importance only when exams and presentations used to be around the corner. I remember the times when I used to struggle to complete the never-ending theory papers within the stipulated time. While writing those papers, the attention used to be divided into time and quality of content. I used to heave a sigh of relief whenever I managed to complete the paper by ‘fighting against all odds’. Preparation for the presentations too used to start at the eleventh hour and the graph of panic levels used to rise.

As I mentioned in one of my previous articles, situations do not change, only the face of the situations change. I have been experiencing the challenges against time since turning into a working professional. This holds especially true when you are working in finance department and month end (which always seems to be approaching sooner than usual) alarm bell starts ringing. Being a novice with the financial tools used at work, the time required for understanding them and then implementing them in work is a Herculean task at the initial stages of learning.

After spending a few months in the organization, absorbing its culture and acclimatizing with the job tasks, I was assigned with a new set of responsibilities. That was, I would say, my breakthrough in understanding to complete the tasks on time. When the deadlines are nearby, even the emails in the inbox have exclamatory marks in the subject line, denoting the urgency in finishing the work on time. That is when the wheels have to get churning faster than normal. When I am in such a situation, I feel like the hare in the ‘Hare and Tortoise’ story, whereby I try to finish tasks as quickly as possible and then expect to relax for a while. Alas, Time (month end tasks) is such a tortoise that comes steadily but not slowly! And then I try to change the course of the story and try to win despite playing a hare.

Ideally in our 45 hours of work in a week, it can be said that tasks can be completed on time provided we plan them, to avoid panic. Or as Fredrick Taylor had suggested ‘time and motion study’ can really be implemented to increase business efficiency. If that would have been always possible, maybe the words ‘ad hoc’ or ‘impromptu’ would not have existed. In such a case it’s difficult to answer the question ‘How much time will it take?’ when you yourself are not sure of it and are about to do it for the very first time! It is like asking the ‘exact estimate’!  But giving assurances and promises is something we Indians are really good at and we don’t like displeasing anyone by raising their eyebrows. Therefore, to avoid looking like a fool or to avoid wrath of any sort, some people blurt any number that comes to their mind.

The story does not end here. After all the planning is done, you are set to finish the tasks on time and work towards it like a dedicated professional. On your way to accomplishment there lie various challenges in form of time consuming processes on your system and background files to be prepared which take most of the time. That I would say, is a test of patience. It is as though a dish taking not much time to cook, but its preparation involving painstaking efforts. In both the cases, be it cooking or the job task in which you pour your heart and soul in, the outcome is decisive. You are either praised or are suggested areas of improvement. Trainings too should form a part of routine activities to improve efficiency and also because they contribute significantly towards improving a person’s learning and experience curve.

Whenever we talk about completing things on time, the stories of people waiting back after the working hours are generally applauded. No one usually questions if that task really needed a person to wait back. No one really gives it a thought as to what that person does in the actual office hours. In German work culture working hours mean working hours without gossips or other frivolous activities. In such a work culture it is immaterial if your colleagues give you a perplexed look when you leave sharp on time.

Battling all the deadlines and having a sense of satisfaction that you did well in your work, there wait a loving bunch of people at your home who support you in all your trysts: Family. To ensure their happiness should therefore be on the top of your priority lists. And to spend quality time with our families out of the busy five-day week, we long for weekends. We must thank Henry Ford for inventing weekends in the early 1900s. Though he saw weekends as an opportunity to sell cars to his employees viewing them also as customers, he would not have known then, that these weekends only would provide solace to many indefatigable working individuals. Of course, there are many human machines as well who don’t mind working even on weekends. They are either passionate or megalomaniacs.

As I said that time sprints and waits for no one, weekends too sprint at a lightning or should I say frightening speed, and there comes Monday again. The cycle begins anew once again. Task lists are planned and prepared, accountability of time has to be proved and life simply goes on, forever waiting for weekends or planning for vacations or other passions to be pursued!

An Excursion with Esprit de Corps

A

s a Management student, I learnt the importance of team spirit and team dynamics in any organization. Then, it seemed pretty theoretical to me. I wondered if team spirit really existed or was it just limited to Henri Fayol’s ‘14 Principles of Management’ which he wrote in 1916. To me, the meaning of team was only constricted to our group projects where one person working for the entire team was a common picture. In other words, there was ‘One-for-All’ and not ‘All-for-One’ concept. In a business law parlance, it used to be a nightmare when I used to have a bunch of dormant or sleeping partners in my group, who hardly contributed anything towards the project. I used to be skeptical when our faculties used to randomly divide us in groups. Sometimes, to my misfortune I used to have a majority of dormant partners. Our teachers always said, “At work you cannot choose your boss or colleagues, you have to work with them the way they are!” They were right after all.

As an amateur in corporate world and in my organization, I soon got a wonderful opportunity to bond with my team, disguised in the form of a vacation in Hyderabad. Our textbooks would explain the qualities of a leader or a manager, mentioning that ‘developing team spirit’ is one of the qualities that a leader must possess. My team leader gave us the opportunity to understand that. Amicable that she is, she invited our team for her son’s first birthday in Hyderabad, followed by sightseeing in the city of Nizams. It was a trip worth looking forward to, as I could explore yet another city of our diverse nation.

The day of our journey finally dawned. Wading through the daily phenomena of traffic in Mumbai, my colleague and I finally reached the airport. As expected, Mumbai airport was bustling with people everywhere, some in hurry and some at leisure. Life moves at a lightning speed in Mumbai. Our flight was delayed by 40 minutes, but my excitement to go to Hyderabad prevailed. After our plane landed in Hyderabad, one of my colleagues booked a cab to reach our desired destination. In the entire trip I realized that how smartphones and cab service companies have joined hands to serve people better. Such business models not only generate profits, provide livelihood but also provide comfort to the travelers when it is most needed. Such businesses hold customers at high regard, ensuring efficient and timely service.

We reached our hotel and got dressed for the birthday party in the evening. The party had a jungle theme; therefore the party hall was decorated in green, brown and blue with famous cartoon characters like Mowgli and Lion King, just how children would love it. The birthday baby was smartly dressed and he smiled at the guests as if to welcome them to his first birthday. The evening was frolic with some games and lots of laughter. We clicked a number of pictures to treasure our moments. The sumptuous dinner at party had specialties of Hyderabad – Biryani being the most famous one. We relished every dish over a nice chat. It was one of my first encounters with colleagues in an informal occasion. I realized that they were jovial and full of wonderful thoughts and ideas.

Next morning we decided to the visit the most celebrated tourist attraction of Hyderabad – Ramoji Film City. It was half an hour drive away from our hotel. It was literally another gargantuan, glamorous city within Hyderabad. We were provided a map at the entrance so that we could watch the scheduled shows. The first show was a pantomime stunt show. It was truly a show proving that ‘Actions speak louder and effectively than words’. The next show called ‘Spirit of Ramoji’ displayed the amazing dance and juggling skills that the performers possessed. The show ‘Filmi Duniya’ was a train ride to visit the beautifully stationed puppets representing different parts of the world. ‘Lights, Camera, Action’ was another show demonstrating various genres of Hollywood in a hall clad in darkness. The bright props used by the performers exhibited their talent and dispelled the darkness around. The performance was a treat to eyes. As if to reminisce the days of our innocent childhood we went for a show which was meant for children, yet we could enjoy and laugh there till heart’s content. The last show that we attended was ‘Space Yatra’ which could give us a life-like experience that we were in a spacecraft, closer to the earth. Technology does marvels, doesn’t it? To feel chills down the spine, we visited a devil’s house which was made with such lights and objects that it was capable of shaking people with fear. We clicked a lot of pictures in that haunted, brightly illuminated house. We had lots of moments of laughter there as well. Since the rides in amusement parks fascinate me, I was eager to sit in one of the rides to see the world go ‘upside down’. One of my colleagues joined me in that ride. I felt a childlike excitement once again. The ride lasted for 2 to 3 minutes, yet it was exhilarating. Ramoji is known for its sets resembling reality and many Hindi movies have been shot there. Through a bus ride we saw the sets which were used in various movies like Jab We Met, Bahubali etc. I left from Ramoji awestruck, wondering the depths of creativity existing within people.

After resting for a while in our hotel, we headed for dinner at Chutneys, a famous restaurant in Hyderabad. I was astonished to see a wide variety of Dosas and Idlis. Each bite of them tasted like heaven. Food becomes more enjoyable if you have a good company to dine with, and I just had the kind of people with me with whom I could relish the food. After having a wholesome dinner, we went on a long walk to Hussain Sagar Lake, in the centre of which Lord Buddha’s refulgent statue stands. The cool breeze around the lake was soothing. As we walked, my colleagues and I had interesting discussions, be it about the society or Bollywood. I always find it interesting to ponder over people’s opinions, to understand how human minds work. It was late at night by the time we reached our hotel. The city was fast asleep by then, but for us Mumbaikars it was quite usual to be awake and fresh even at that hour.

Next day was our last one in Hyderabad. That morning after having a delicious breakfast of Paneer Dosa, Idlis and chutney, we drove to Salarjung Museum. To get an experience of local transport of Hyderabad, we decided to reach Salarjung in an auto rickshaw. To travel in an auto without a meter fare was a unique experience for me. Haggling for cheaper fare is justified as tourists are often swindled by auto drivers.

Salarjung Museum is a repository of art objects around the world, stretching from Europe, the Middle East to ancient India. The museum is named after Mir Turab Ali Khan and Mir Laiq Ali Khan, the Salar Jungs who belonged to an illustrious family which served as prime ministers to the Nizams. We hired a guide who explained us the significance and origins of the artifacts around. Some of the paintings and statues were mesmerizing, showing us yet another glimpse of imagination and creativity. All the art objects belonged to the ancient times, yet their colours looked fresh and nascent. What intricate art meant, I understood after watching these manmade epitomes of beauty. I stood in admiration for the cognoscente Nawab Mir Yousuf Ali Khan, Salar Jung III who was mainly responsible for the collection. He made it possible to bring the entire art world under one roof, where people could get acquainted to the multifarious forms of art and culture.

As Hyderabad is famous for pearls, we went shopping for pearls. We reached the market area near Charminar, which seemed like a hub of pearl jewellery shops. Charminar was horded by people, making it a busy market street. The shops we visited shone milky white. The varieties in pearl jewellery could put any woman in dilemma! The prices ranged from reasonable to exorbitant and we spent a long time choosing the ones that were worth the value. My two male colleagues too thought of buying some pearls for their loved ones and we three ladies were happy to help them in selecting the right ones.After all, women not only love to shop for themselves but for others as well!

Having bought the special gems of Hyderabad, our shopping spree would not have been complete without visiting Karachi Bakery, whose confectionaries are mouth watering. Tempting aromas of biscuits and pastries wafted in the shop. I had heard from one of my friends that Karachi Bakery served finest confections. Gauging from the huge crowd that was present in the shop, I agreed with my friend. A plethora of biscuit flavours were available, making the place a heaven for persons having sweet tooth. We left the shop carrying a number of boxes in our hands.

My team leader, extending her hospitality further, invited us at her home for dinner. Her home is a beautiful abode of two floors. Her baby boy playing a good host with his mother greeted all of us with his endearing smile. He had recently started walking and he exhibited his walking skills, astounding us all. The dinner was a gourmet’s paradise with homemade Hyderabadi dishes. My team leader and her husband, truly living by the adage ‘Atithi Devo Bhava’ served us the splendid meal. That day she was only a warm host and friend for us irrespective of the echelon she held in our organization. I savored every dish. It is true that no food other than home cooked food can truly satisfy our hunger. Our hearts were filled with gratitude and contentment.

The next morning we headed back to Mumbai to return to our busy lives. Similar to the sentiments at the end of every vacation, I felt morose that this exciting vacation had come to an end. The moments spent, the jokes cracked by my colleagues and their amazing company was worth cherishing. After this trip, I realized that I now know them a little better than what I did earlier. They are not only good professionals but also good persons. This excursion taught me what the word ‘kennenlernen’ in German i.e. ‘to get to know someone’ truly means. This experiment in team spirit and team bonding was a successful one! 

Arbeitssuche: Job Hunt to Alter Life and Lifestyle

When I entered the most coveted programme called MBA, like everyone else, one of the things on my ‘to-do’ list apart from strengthening my technical skills was to get a good placement at the end of two years. Now that these two years are over, I believe that this placement preparation was similar to the preparations of Board Exams, only with an exception that the ultimate reward of a job hunt is getting a good work profile with lucrative pay. When I recollect the days when I had taken efforts to score well in the board exams, I find those days strikingly similar to my second year in MBA. During the crucial SSC, HSC and graduation years, constantly the same line is reiterated by parents, relatives, coaching classes and schools - Score well so that you get a good job in future.

In a country like India, where there is  rat race everywhere, marks play an important role. Marks are therefore a ‘filter’ used by companies to choose only those candidates with a sound academic background. Hence having decent scores on one’s mark sheets becomes necessary. It is a harsh but true fact. All of us have been through that stage where even the difference of one or two marks have led or hampered us from pursuing what we had desired. Whenever I used to apply for any company, one of the requirements would be ‘the candidate should have a good academic record scoring 60% throughout SSC, HSC and Graduation’. This statement is like the gate pass to apply for a company. Anything below 60% and your dreams of applying to that company end! The experience is similar when we wanted to apply for a college of our choice. Satisfied that I fulfilled that criterion, I thanked my family every time they nudged me to do better in my exams. At the same time, I felt bad for some of my colleagues who never used to get shortlisted because of the marks criterion, though they had the caliber for the job. Indeed, the high importance of numbers in one’s life, only Indians can understand well!

The process of filtering goes even more complex. After your past life of good scores has helped you in crossing one mountain, there stands the second mountain called aptitude tests which further eliminates a few people. In my second year of MBA, our Institute had organized practice sessions to do better in ‘Apti’. Again, while brushing up my aptitude test skills, I was taken back to the days when I prepared as an MBA aspirant for various competitive exams. Relieved two years back, that quantitative ability would never haunt me again, that haunting was back in the form of aptitude test! Back then, getting admission to a good institute was the goal and now getting entry into a renowned company is the goal. Only the face of the situation changes, but the actual situation does not change. Humans excel in life after crossing one milestone to another.

I had appeared for a company’s recruitment process for the first time and obviously I had an adrenaline rush. When I looked around at the other aspirants, all impeccably dressed in blazers, I sensed that everyone had the same feeling of anxiety to get placed in that company. Their eyes seemed full of dreams. The nervousness felt similar to the nervousness in an exam hall. Larger the number of candidates applying for a company, equally high is the anxiety and maybe less probability of getting selected. To be the best one is the only alternative that remains! Another interesting filtration process is called group discussion. In this round, I often find people speaking monotonous, rehearsed lines, just like the lines we rehearse to write as answers in an exam. In one of my friends’ case, the entire group was disqualified because the candidates were aggressive. In extreme cases, there are groups where people look at each other to start the discussion. In every group, there is always one passive person who does not speak at all or has to be compelled by the moderator to add something to the inputs or to summarize the discussion at the end. Sometimes it is not a surprise when these passive persons get qualified for the next round!

The ultimate battle which decides your fate to enter a company is called a personal interview. Technical questions could be a drop from the well of knowledge that you have gained so far. Questions like ‘Tell me about yourself’ seem like a recap of the life what one has lived so far. However it is important to state only those events of your life which will ensure that the interviewer considers you for the job. ‘Where do you see yourself in 5 years?’ is another head-scratching question. When the capacity to think of an answer to that question reaches its limit, one has to turn to Google to find the answer- it is always easy to adapt to other people’s dreams where they see themselves in 5 years! The pompous manner in which MBA students describe their summer internship simply shows the amazing presentation skills which they acquire in two years.

After the interview is over, one can always hope for the best. Wait for the verdict begins, keeping fingers crossed. And once you get that most awaited email saying that you have been selected for the job, the joy is boundless. Congratulatory wishes start pouring in.  WhatsApp group name of your class is changed to congratulate you. Perseverance finally pays off. In my Institute I remember how people had started dressing informally after getting placed. That became a way of distinguishing unplaced students from the placed ones. Later it was delighting to see more and more students dressed informally.

Hunting for a job and finally getting one is truly a life changing process, an important phase of life. You start understanding what the industry demands, where you should work upon. Learning and unlearning becomes part and parcel of your life. Failures teach you. And when you finally get that job that you have always dreamed about, being a forward looking human being, you start planning where you to invest your earnings, when to buy a home of your own and what all you can buy you have ever dreamt of. Life changes and so does lifestyle. When you climb up from basic needs to self actualization stage as said by Maslow, you realize the lessons that you learn from the previous four stages of life. Somewhere those efforts to score good marks, aptitude tests, group discussions, successful and non-successful interviews teach you to be competitive, hard working and confident to fight against all odds. It is rightly said that nothing in life comes for free. Efforts are inevitable in any phase of life. Seeking a job and excelling in it to enhance lifestyle is one of these significant experiences in the journey called life. Even an economy would not function if there is 100% complacency among people!

The Modern Narcissists

Being a stickler for keeping things in order, my laptop is filled with many folders, which help my documents to be handy all the time. That is why I relate myself a lot to Monica Geller Bing of Friends who is obsessed with keeping everything in an organized way! I have one such folder in my laptop named Wordoful which is a collection of documents containing the evolution of certain English words, with their historical provenance. The combination of history and English is something which I always find interesting, therefore I often browse through those documents. Of all, the story behind the word ‘narcissism’ astounds me every time I read it. Narcissus, a haughty handsome hunter as per the Greek Mythology, fell in love with his own reflection as a result of the imprecation by Nemesis, the Goddess of revenge. Today, we refer to those people as Narcissists, who are obsessed with their appearance.  Back then, little did Narcissus know that in 21^st century, he was going to have millions of successors!

Today, ‘Selfies’ have become the euphemism for ‘Narcissism’, or should I say tautological to Narcissism? Whenever I log into my Facebook account, I see a plethora of selfies, with catchy captions written next to them. If the selfie is with a pout, then it is considered ‘cuter’. I don’t understand how a pout can be prettier than a natural smile or a candid laugh. Today, almost in every part of the world people have gone frenzy over selfies; the rich and the bourgeoisie alike. I first got acquainted with the word selfie after seeing a photo of Ellen DeGeneres with the actors at Oscars 2014. That selfie went viral on social media and soon the trend of selfies spread like a wild fire. Obviously, the ‘selfie air’ could not miss India. In our country, where so many things are trending, selfie also became the new trend, especially among the youth.  I would cut some slack for selfies though, considering it as a breakthrough innovation in cameras. Other positive thing at the most I can say about selfies is that you save the trouble for someone to click your pictures. Rather than expressing dismay to that person who may, as humans are prone to errors, click a bad picture of yours, you take matters of your ‘image’ in your own hands. People go on clicking their images until they find the perfect picture, most often to set as WhatsApp or Facebook profile pictures. ‘Likes’ from the people is all that matters, isn’t it?  

I am not being satirical about selfies; in fact I like to be a part of selfies with my beloved people. Surely, selfies like any other photos help us in cherishing our moments of laughter and happiness, but humans tend to go overboard to achieve semblance among their social circles. How lethal can it get when selfies become an addiction, a mental disorder? I read an article once which said that a British teenager attempted suicide when he could not get a perfect selfie despite taking up 200 selfies! The recent case of Bandstand in Mumbai, wherein three college girls fell into the sea while clicking selfies or a 16 year old boy from Chennai who was run over by train while trying to click a picture of himself beside it, only shows that the tech-savvy youth of today has become so reckless that they are willing to risk their precious lives. When such ‘lunatics’ as I call them, resort to such brainless adventures, I commiserate more with the people around them. Take the example of the braveheart, Ramesh Walunj who lost his life while saving the lives of the three drowned girls at Bandstand, leaving his family bereaved. The only lesson I learn when I read such cases is that, technology plays the extreme roles of comforting as well as destroying human lives.

A year back when I wanted to purchase a new mobile phone, I went through umpteen product specifications of different brands. When I finalized a phone that would match my nature of usage, someone pointed out that there was no front camera in the phone that I had chosen. I shrugged it off by saying nonchalantly, “Who cares anyway?” Yes, I really do not find my cell phone to be devoid of something called as ‘front camera’. My fascination for camera is till now restricted to clicking pictures on my 10 megapixel digital camera. I feel proud of my choice every time I see a bunch of college girls in my train compartment clicking selfies, either seated or standing at the door of the compartment. But then I explain myself that in today’s era packaging is more important than the product. No matter what evil lies in the heart, outward appearance should be warm and welcoming, like masquerades. Appreciation for facial looks therefore matters to gain popularity among people. Sometimes, I wonder if camera rolls had been still extant, the craze for selfies would not have arisen, considering a number of penny pinching people. Who knows, the youth of today would have been more disciplined, or at least there would not have been any ‘breakthroughs’ in psychological disorders. The regulatory authorities should intervene in the selfie mishaps and strictly prohibit selfies at places where there are possible threats. Imposing a heavy fine would be especially helpful against the college goers, who may cringe to shell out their pocket monies on heavy fines.

When I open my folder of pictures, either on my computer or an old album of childhood, I am reminded of the ‘selfie’less and probably more selfless world. Unless and until people have an epiphany to limit their fixation on any new innovation in technology, the danger of any kind of catastrophe hovers over us. The path towards safety can even begin by clicking selfies only in safe places, where there is no threat to any life. Wouldn’t that be the most beautiful selfie ever taken? So, chal beta selfie le le re, par bina kisi ki jaan le le re!